Mrs. Call

DaveCall and I are extremely committed to one another. I don't need anyone else's approval. I don't need you to agree with it, I do however expect you to respect it. I will respect the fact that you are also free to make your own choices. I have always been a firm believer that your rights end where my nose begins and vice versa.

Spoiler Alert: DAVECALL AND I AREN'T MARRIED. WE LIVE IN SIN. There I said it. It is out in the open.

For the most part DaveCall and I jointly own our shiz. Sure the throw pillows are solely mine, but to be fair the playstation is all his. I had to register the car we own jointly and couldn't do so until our address was updated with the DMV. We own one car jointly and the other is all DaveCall's. I called to update the records of the car we own. After the employee at the DMV updated our record she said, "Mrs. Call, I also took the liberty of updating the records for your other car." I replied, "Thank you, Mr. Call will be very pleased." I'm not sure that was "legal" but hey, Mr. Call will be pleased.

Because we aren't "married" in the event that one of us kicks the can, we have to make sure that the other is set up as the beneficiary of certain things. We just changed some of those beneficiary forms and had to list one another as "Special Friend." The choices were spouse, child or "special friend." From now on I will introduce DaveCall as my special friend....I also got a kick out of meeting a person that DaveCall submitted one of these forms to. She met me and said, "Oh....you're a girl." She had assumed that Randi=Randy=Special Friend=DaveCall is gay.

I also enjoy that people seem to autocorrect boyfriend to husband. Me, "This is DaveCall, he is my boyfriend." Other Person, "How long have you been married." Uh, I can still hear the words BOYFRIEND in my head...so I will have to answer, "Zero years, minutes, hours or any other measure of time." They usually follow this up with, "So when will you get married." Just now I decided I will answer their question with a question, "When are you going to purchase a kangaroo farm?"

The purpose of this post is that each of us is free to be who we want to be. Love yourself for who you are. Don't try to conform to what people want or expect. Be happy with you. I'm happy with me, Randi Smith. For the record if we do get married I am staying Randi Smith (sorry Tamie Graves, I know how mad this makes you). So, Mrs. Call will always be someone else.